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Bipolar Mood Disorders, Glossary of terms

Questions about Mood & Relationship Disorders?

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By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC
Senior Staff Therapist,
The Family Institute at Northwestern University

Mood and Relationship Disorders.

Questions and Answers

1. What is a mood disorder?
2. What are the symptoms of a mood disorder?
3. Can a mood disorder be compared to a physical illness?
4. What should you report to your psychiatrist?
5. Will you have to go in and out of hospitals the rest of your life?
6. Why can’t you drink alcohol if you are not an alcoholic?
7. Why is mood disorder and addiction often found in the same individual?
8. Why is medication compliance so important?
9. How do you cope with the past?
10. Why are recreation, exercise and socialization so important?
11. What if you don’t feel motivated to do the things suggested here?
12. What are relapse warning signs?
13. What are the causes of relapse, regression and re-hospitalization?
14. When should you go to the hospital?
15. What do you do if you can’t sleep?
16. What is the role of the family in treatment?
17. What can family members do to minimize the risk of relapse?
18. How can family members learn to cope?
19. Who is responsible for your happiness?
20. What are the goals of treatment?
21. Why is psychiatric medication useful in controlling symptoms of mood disorders?
22. What if you are inconsistent in taking your medication?
23. What are the possible side effects of psychiatric medication?
24. What are the benefits and purpose of psychiatric medication?
25. What does one do if there is a medical emergency?
26. How does one learn to make healthy choices?
27. How to be well.

1. What is a mood disorder?

Mood disorders are considered a mental illness. They are biological/genetic problems that you inherited and are considered no different than the diagnosis of diabetes. These disorders are usually manifested in the teens or early twenties. I use two very different definitions of mental illness.
The first definition is as follows:
It is a lifelong disability, episodic in nature that causes chronic dysfunction, asocial behavior and hospital dependency. A breakdown of this definition is as follows:

Lifelong means there is no cure to date, though new medications, if taken as prescribed, have made symptoms very manageable.

Episodic means that sometimes the symptoms are worse than at other times.

Chronic dysfunction includes inability to manage day-to-day events, unemployment and often failed relationships.

Asocial Behavior is that behavior which is bizarre and inappropriate. This includes poor self-care. It may also include behavior that is harmful to oneself or others.

Hospital Dependency means that in some severe instances, frequent psychiatric hospitalization may result in a revolving door syndrome in which a person spends their life going in and out of hospitals.

The second definition is as follows:
Mental illness is a lifelong disability, episodic in nature that the individual can learn to manage with hope and with dignity.

The two definitions are separated only by education, psychiatric treatment and support. The key here is management of a disability. You manage it or it will manage you! How do you want to live your life? (See how to be well)

2. What are the symptoms of mood disorders?
A. Symptoms of Depression grief, loss panic and anxiety.
a. Lack of pleasure, loss of interest and energy
b. Lack of goal directed behavior
c. Inability to structure time, poor concentration,
d. Anger
e. Sleeping too much or too little
f. Overwhelmed with worry, sadness, low mood
g. Feeling guilty, stressed or hopeless
h. Poor self-care including hygiene
i. Aches, pains, dizziness, headaches, or stomach aches
j. Strained relationships, marital issues, loss of friends
k. Would rather be alone
l. Withdrawal, isolation, lack of close personal ties
m. Difficulty in getting along with people, irritable
n. Crisis prone, police involvement
o. Low sex drive
p. Thoughts of suicide, homicide

B. What are the symptoms of Bipolar Mood Disorder?
(These symptoms may also include some of the above)
a. Rapid mood fluctuations
b. Feeling high, euphoric or having elated mood
c. Irritability, hostility
d. Pressured, fast speech
e. Racing thoughts, skidding from subject to subject
f. Grandiose beliefs or behavior
g. Poor judgment
h. Poor self-control
i. Increased activity
j. Easily distracted, poor concentration
k. Increased sexual interest and drive
l. Thoughts of suicide, homicide

The above symptoms of mood disorders are widely accepted. Since these disorders have a biological basis, a psychiatrist manages the medication while the therapist provides treatment and support. The therapist support often includes psycho education, symptom reduction, increased coping skills and management of other day to day stressors such as job loss, school failure and relationship issues. The psychiatrist, therapist, family, friends and of course, the patient must work together as a team to construct an effective approach to these disorders. The most important aspect of this is communication.

3. Can a mood disorder be compared to a physical illness?
It is helpful to think of someone you know who is diabetic and what it means to be a diabetic. Some years ago, a friend of mine named John had a heart attack. Fortunately, there was no damage to his heart. What was discovered, however, was that John’s blood sugar was very high. He was diabetic. When John moved out of intensive care, they began to teach him how to cope with his newly discovered disability. They taught him how to measure his blood sugar and give himself insulin injections. They taught him what he could eat and what he could not eat. They even taught him what to do if he had a reaction to a food or his medication. When he was discharged from the hospital, they had a nurse visit him at home several times a week for several weeks just to make sure that what he had learned in the hospital, he continued at home.

Mental illness and diabetes are comparable in many ways. Each is a lifelong, biological problem that requires daily attention, education and support. Medication, when taken as prescribed, stabilize each condition but knowledge and training play a very important role in healthy functioning. The comparisons demonstrate that mental illness, like other physical handicaps, can become a manageable handicap; not the global disability it is for some. It is a result of an imbalance in the chemistry of the brain. It is no one’s fault and no one is to blame. Mental illness is a lifelong disability, episodic in nature that one can learn to manage, with hope and with dignity.

4. What should you report to your psychiatrist?
The Doctor is part of the team. S/he needs your input to best help him to help you. If any of the following are problematic, report them to the doctor. Write things down.
1. Report on medication compliance
2. Changes in your Symptoms
A. Sleep patterns
B. Voices
C. Mood
D. Physical changes
3. Drug and alcohol use
4. Medication side effects
5. Social activity
6. Self-care
7. Physical activities, Hobbies, Chores
8. Money management
9. Unusual behavior
10. Threats to self or others

5. Will you have to go in and out of hospitals the rest of your life?
Typically, in severe cases, some people go in and out of the hospital their entire life. This is usually a case of non-compliance with medication or alcohol or substance abuse. Mood disorders can be a global disability or a very manageable handicap. Which one will you choose? Education, medication and ongoing supportive treatment are essential for maintaining healthy functioning.

6. Why can’t you drink alcohol if you are not an alcoholic?
It is well documented that alcohol and substance abuse make the symptoms of a mood disorder worse. Where mood disorders are concerned, use is the same as abuse! Alcohol is a depressant. Even casual use may affect your mood for days after you drink. I suggest you monitor your moods for the next several days after drinking. Alcohol also affects the usefulness of the medication. Antidepressants take weeks to build up to a therapeutic level. When you drink you affect those levels.  In addition, one should never use substances when taking prescription medication. This can be fatal.

7. Why is mental illness and addiction often found in the same individual?
The answers here are not completely understood. Some say that the sites in the brain that are affected by mental illness are the same sites affected by addiction. Regardless of the chemistry, just casual use of alcohol by a person with a mood disorder may eventually result in alcohol dependence. If you have a mood disorder, you can’t have any! The consequences are just not worth it.

8. Why is medication compliance so important?
The number one cause of regression and re-hospitalization is not taking medication as prescribed. In order for medications to work effectively, one must maintain a certain level in the body. When that level in not maintained, debilitating symptoms reappear.

9. How do you cope with the past?
Many people with mood disorders have difficulty coping with the past. Once this is explored with your doctor and therapist, I suggest one simply moves on. When one dwells on the past, they often have difficulty coping with the present. Yesterday is done; worry about today and tomorrow will take care of itself.

10. Why are recreation, exercise and socialization so important?
It is good to have fun. Have fun! People with mood disorders often become engrossed in their illness and problems. Recreation and exercise (especially walking) are good for depression and a great distraction when one is experiencing symptoms. Distraction from symptoms is an important coping skill. (Internet, video games, TV or reading don’t help with distraction.)

11. What if you don’t feel motivated to do the things suggested here?
Lack of motivation is a direct result of the disorder. If you wait to feel motivated, it may never happen. Walk 40 minutes per day at least 3-4 days per week. Do your chores and exercise on the days you have picked to do them. Plan to have fun. Have at least one social activity per week. (See how to be well.)

12. What are relapse warning signs?
Relapse Warning Signs reflect symptoms that include the following:
1. Thoughts about hurting oneself or others
2. Too much or not enough sleep, especially no sleep
3. Inability to concentrate, rapid speech, skidding
4. Rapid mood fluctuations, mania or depression
5. Poor judgment, risky behavior
These symptoms are typically a result of alcohol use, substance use or medication noncompliance.

13. What are the most common causes of regression, relapse and re-hospitalization?
1. Medication noncompliance
2. Alcohol and/or substance use
3. Social isolation
4. Family conflict

14. When should you go to the hospital?
When you are in danger of hurting yourself or someone else or when there is a medical emergency such as a medication reaction.

15. What do you do if you can’t sleep?
Stop drinking caffeinated beverages. Don’t nap during the day. Report it to your doctor.

16. What is the role of the family in treatment?
The role of the family in treatment is simply to monitor and report. The family should observe the patient’s behavior and report anything that may be important to the stable functioning and health of the patient. The patient should not be interfered with directly unless, of course, s/he is a danger to themselves or others. The family’s role in treatment is a collaborative effort in communication. The family should think of themselves as team members. We are all on the same team! Keeping secrets from the doctor or therapist interferes with treatment and may ultimately have serious consequences. Families should report on the following:
1) When the person does not take their medication as prescribed.
2) The use of alcohol, other substances or medications not prescribed by a doctor.
3) Behavior which may result in injury or harm to the individual, family or community.
4) The presence of any relapse warning signs, especially no sleep.
5) Social and leisure activities.
6) Unusual behavior

17. What can family members do to minimize the risk of relapse?
1. Monitor and report on medication compliance.
2. Monitor and report on the use of alcohol and drugs.
3. Avoid critical comments.
4. Avoid over involvement.
5. Avoid excessive pressure to achieve.
6. Avoid trying to help motivate.
These are frequent causes of family conflict and should be discussed with the doctor and therapist.

18. How can family members learn to cope?
1) Mental illness is no one’s fault. It is a biological problem. Avoid placing blame or guilt.
2) Provide opportunities to get away from each other. Check with your local AMI support group about meetings and their ongoing social activities.
3) Pursue other activities. Join the local YMCA or health club and get some exercise and social support.
4) Have outside interests and hobbies.
5) Walk at least 40 minutes on regularly scheduled days each week. In the winter, use a treadmill or walk the stairs. (Be careful; hold the handrail.)
6) Learn all you can about mood disorders but do not try to be a therapist.

19. Who is responsible for your happiness?
Who owns the problem? Don’t blame others for your illness or problems. Remember, a mood disorder is a biological problem like diabetes. If you don’t manage it, it will manage you. See how to be well.

20. What are the goals of treatment?
When dealing with a lifelong illness, it is important to understand the goals of treatment. Goals generally fall into six overlapping areas, they are as follows:
1 Medical
2 Social
3 Daily Living
4 Coping
5 Prevocational, vocational
6 Personal
As you will see, some goals can be placed under more than one area. A goal may remain as long as is necessary to ensure consistent compliance. Write down your goals and put them on the refrigerator. Some examples of Goals are as follows.
Medical
1 Take medication as prescribed
2 Report the presence of symptoms
3 Maintain abstinence from alcohol
4 Avoid caffeinated beverages
5 Maintain a healthy diet
6 Get medical and dental check-up annually
7 Keep psychiatrist appointments
8 Have blood work checked as directed by your doctor
9 Report less than 4 hours of sleep to your doctor
10 Report medication side effects to your doctor or ER

Social skills
1 Have at least one social activity per week
2 Try to avoid sleeping/ napping during the day
3 Call a friend
4 Make plans for the weekend

Daily Living Skills
1 Wash hair twice a week
2 Shower (daily)
4 Do your own laundry on Saturday (pick the same day each week)
5 Wear clean clothes

Coping Skills
1 Read goals daily, put a copy on the refrigerator at home
2 Be on time for work and appointments
3 See your doctor, especially when experiencing symptoms
4 Take a brisk walk 40 min every day (get Dr approval to exercise)
5 See your therapist regularly for support
6 Check in with family regularly
7 Work on a hobby 1/2 hour every day or when you are experiencing symptoms

Prevocational, Vocational
1 Bath daily
2 Dress appropriately
3 Look for a job on Monday (pick days)
4 Practice writing job applications
5 Attend school on assigned days
6 Do chores on assigned days
7 Do volunteer work on assigned days
8 Concentrate on chores at home (do a good job)
10 Be on time for appointments
11 Go to work

Personal
1 Make healthy choices.
2 Spend quality time with your family.
3 Improve self-esteem.

21. Why is psychiatric medication useful in controlling symptoms of Mood Disorders?
Mood disorders are considered bio-psycho-social disorders. It is a biological issue that affects thinking and behavior and often times creates relationship issues. Medication and Medication Management are typically essential in the management of the biology or the chemistry of the disorder. I consider this to be the foundation of treatment. It is difficult if not impossible to treat severe mood disorders without medication.
Therapy addresses the psychosocial treatment including identification and management of symptoms, daily living skills, coping skills and the relationship issues often accompanying these disorders.

22. What if you are inconsistent in taking your medication?
The key word here is consistent. The medication is extremely important to maintaining your mental health. If you are not consistent in taking the medication, you will have difficulty functioning effectively on a day-to-day basis. You may need to ask for assistance from family or friends. Always take the medication as prescribed.

23. What are the possible side effects of psychiatric medication?
Always read the medication information given to you by the pharmacist. If you have questions or concerns, direct your questions to the pharmacist and your doctor. Go to the ER for serious side effects.

24. What are the benefits and purpose of psychiatric medication?
A Mood disorders is disease very much like diabetes. It takes insulin to manage diabetes; it takes psychiatric medication to manage mood disorders. Some say you just have to be tuff. You just have to pull yourself up by your bootstraps
so to speak and try harder. This is false. In my opinion, the only way to successfully manage a mood disorder is with medication and treatment.

25. What does one do if there is a medical emergency?
Call 911 immediately!

26. How does one learn to make healthy choices?
Sometimes people do not recognize the choices they make may not be healthy. Others simply need ongoing supportive therapy. Together with your doctor and therapist, you can learn to manage your symptoms and cope with the day to day stress of a mood disorder. This is the reason that ongoing support of a doctor and therapist is essential for management.

27. How to be well.
Coping with mood disorders is no easy task! It takes professional support, medication, psycho education and experience to manage the debilitating symptoms. With the necessary supports and monitoring, persons with mental illness can learn to:
1. Control Symptoms
2. Remain stable
3. Have a network of friends and supports and
4. Maintain employment
I have also found that it takes an average of about one year to reach those goals but some people never reach all. In addition, most people will need some level of support their entire lives. The bottom line is you can’t do it alone! You need a psychiatrist to manage your medication and a therapist to provide ongoing support.

Ten elements necessary to cope with mood disorders.

1) Take the medication as prescribed by your doctor.
This is definitely a tough one. No one likes to have to take medication, especially, every day for the rest of your life but remember. Mental illness is a lifelong disease and it’s all about body chemistry. It is a biological problem first and foremost. It’s like being a diabetic; you must take the medication as prescribed in order to be well.

2) No caffeine, drugs or alcohol, ever.
People with mental illness often have problems with sleep. I do not recommend using caffeine. It interferes with the sleep/wake cycle. I also don’t recommend working the night shift i.e., midnight to 8 AM. It is too hard to get adjusted to a night shift and it also messes up the sleep/wake cycle. Tell your doctor or your therapist if you are not sleeping.
As far as alcohol and substance use, it is as simple as it is hard. Don’t do it! Mental illness alters reality. Alcohol and substance use alter reality. There is a relationship between alcoholism, drug abuse, addiction, mental illness and relapse. The bottom-line is USE IS THE SAME AS ABUSE! Don’t use, ever! If you already have a problem, get professional help and go to your AA or NA meetings as often as it is necessary to maintain sobriety.

3) Take care of your physical health.
Be sure to have annual dental and physical exams.

4) Be social, outside of the family.
Mental illness tends to make people isolated and withdrawn. People need contact with other people to remain grounded in reality. Even family cannot take the place of social contact in its benefit concerning reality testing. People with mental illness cannot always trust what they feel, see or hear. They need to “check it out” with other people.
We all use our friends to test reality; you just don’t think of it in that way. For example, you call up your friend and say, “Do you know what happened today? I had an argument … She said… I said …” Who do you think was right?” It’s over simplified but you get the idea. People need other people for many reasons. For people with a mood disorder, reality testing or “checking it out” is just one of them. I recommend at least one social activity per week with people other than family.

5) Be active.
People with mood disorders tend to be sedentary. They need to walk and get exercise as much or more than any of us. I recommend taking a brisk walk, weather permitting, at least 3-4 times per week. Pick your days and stick to them as much as you can. It is widely accepted today that walking improves your mood so get out there and walk. Note: Always consult with your doctor before starting any exercise program.

6) Plan to have fun.
When you are a child, it doesn’t take much to have fun. You simply go outside and find some other kids and the party is on so to speak. As an adult, we need to plan to have fun. For example, if you had a boring weekend you might say to your spouse, “This was a lousy weekend. Next week we need to plan to get together with …” Get the idea? People with mental illness tend to become consumed with their symptoms. Planning is a very important part of meeting your social goals.

7) Work on a hobby daily.
A hobby is a wonderful way to cope when no one else is around or when you are hearing voices or depressed or just plain bored. The key word here is coping. People often complain about too much free time and yet they will say, “I don’t have a hobby,” but they will sit for hours ruminating about their symptoms. That is just not healthy. So don’t tell me why you can’t work on a hobby. Tell me what hobby you are going to choose and get to work. Hobbies should be worked on at least 1/2 hour every evening or any time you are having difficulty coping with your symptoms.

8) Do your chores on assigned days.
Household chores are also a way of coping with free time. First, list all your chores and make a schedule for each day of the week. Once written, tape it on your refrigerator or someplace where you will see it every day, and then, stick to your cleaning schedule. This is not about how you feel. If you felt good, you wouldn’t need this stuff. If it’s Monday and you are scheduled to clean the bathroom – do it. It is a coping skill and it also gives you the added benefit of a healthy environment in which to live.

9) Get at least 5 to 7 hours of sleep per night.
As I stated earlier, sleep is very important to maintaining your mental health. Too much sleep is not healthy. No sleep is a quick ticket to the psychiatric hospital. I could take just about anyone in the world; if I kept them awake long enough, they would loose touch with reality. Lack of sleep usually indicates that the person is not taking their medication as prescribed. Remember Goal # 1. Take the medication as prescribed by your doctor. If you’re still not sleeping, notify your doctor. It only takes a few sleepless nights to lose touch with reality and relapse back to severe symptoms.

10) Make healthy choices!
This is my generic one. This one may very well be different from person to person. What is a healthy choice for one person may not be healthy for another. For example, if you have a mood disorder, sleep and alcohol are mental health issues.

Issue 1 Sleep
Typical response: it’s not the caffeine. I like coffee. It doesn’t affect me. I’ve always drank coffee. Whether it’s coffee, soda or tea, caffeine interferes with sleep. It is the most obvious reason for poor sleep. I would certainly recommend discontinuing caffeine before asking the doctor for a sleeping pill. Avoid caffeine for one month and see if you don’t sleep better.

Issue 2 Alcohol
Typical response: What I can’t have a glass of wine with dinner? I don’t do it often. It’s just one glass. It’s not like I’m an alcoholic.
Alcohol is a depressant. It may affect your mood for weeks. Don’t deny the obvious. This is just not a healthy choice.
So, remember, what is healthy for one person, may not be a healthy for you. Make healthy choices!

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Bipolar Mood Disorders, Glossary of terms, Substance Dependence

Psychiatric visit reporting form

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By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC
Senior Staff Therapist,
The Family Institute at Northwestern University

Doctor reporting form. Help the Doctor help you!

Copy and present this to the doctor at each visit. This list is not all inclusive; report anything which may be useful for your treatment. Call 911 in case of emergency or with difficulty breathing!

Name: ___________________________________  Date: ________________

Indicate areas (“X”) in which you feel you need training and education:
1.__ Depression, Mood Disorder, Serious MI
2.__ Use of Psychiatric Medication
3.__ Alcohol, Drug Abuse and Addiction
4.__ Medication Side Effects
5.__ Adverse Reactions
6.__ Dual Diagnosis – MI & Alcohol/Substance Abuse
7.__ Storage of Medication, Safe Guarding Medication
8.__ Medical Emergencies
9.__ Questions About Medications
10.__ Other____________________________________________________________________________________

Do you take your medication daily as prescribed?  __ Yes __ No
Have the benefits & purpose of medication been explained?   __ Yes __ No  Is additional training needed?  __ Yes __ No                                                                      Do you use alcohol and substances?  __Yes  __ No                                                                                                                Comments___________________________________________________________________

Fill in all boxes below with one of the following codes
NA = Not applicable, no problem noted
U = Unable to determine
X = Problem noted, see comments
S = Symptoms

Common Issues, Symptoms & Possible Medication Side Effects.  In case of an emergency or severe reaction call 911.
__ Mood, stability,
__ Swelling
__ Constipation,
__ Diarrhea
__ Anxiety, panic
__ Muscle cramps
__ Headache
__ Suicidal, homicidal thoughts, or plans (call 911)
__ Restlessness, inability to sit still, pacing
__ Abnormal eye movements
__ Dry mouth
__ Tremor
__ Blurred vision
__ Sexual dysfunction
__ Relationship issues, conflict
__ Menstrual problems
__ Urinary retention
__ Depression, mood swings
__ Anger, irritability, hostility
__ Appetite loss, increased appetite
__ Involuntary weight changes
__ Employment issues
__ Poor concentration
__ Poor short term memory
__ Social isolation, withdrawal
__ Eye photo-sensitivity
__ Poor Concentration
__ Hearing voices
__ Poor daily functioning
__ Skin photo-sensitivity
__ Sleep/wake cycle, poor sleep, no sleep
__ Difficulty swallowing or breathing, (call 911)
__ Negative rumination, (negative thoughts on repeat in your head)
__ Skin rash
__ Nausea, vomiting

Comments,_________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Additional comments and concerns: Include: (1) Alcohol and drug use (2) Medication compliance (3) Suicidal or homicidal thoughts or plan (4) Other issues, reactions, side effects or Questions?

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Bipolar Mood Disorders, Glossary of terms, Marital Family Issues

How can family help one with depression?

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By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC
Senior Staff Therapist,
The Family Institute at Northwestern University

What to do when your spouse has depression?

The role of the family in treatment is simply to monitor and report. The family should observe the patient’s behavior and report anything that may be important to the stable functioning and health of the patient. The patient should not be interfered with directly unless, of course, s/he is a danger to themselves or others. The family’s role in treatment is a collaborative effort in communication. The family should think of themselves as team members. We are all on the same team! Keeping secrets from the doctor or therapist interferes with treatment and may ultimately have serious consequences. Families should call their doctor, therapist immediately or 911 if the patient has any of the following behaviors or symptoms, especially if they are new, worse, or worry you.

Report when the patient is:

1. Not taking their medication as prescribed.

  1. Abusing alcohol, substances or medications not prescribed by a doctor.
  2. Severely depressed, irritable, threatens violence or has thoughts of suicide or dying.
  3. Exhibits behavior which may result in injury or harm to the individual, family or community.
  4. Experiencing of any relapse warning signs, especially no sleep.
  5. Experiencing panic attacks, uncontrolled anxiety or restlessness.
  6. Acting on dangerous impulses.
  7. Exhibits unusual behavior that is out-of-character for this individual.

Family should:

  1. Avoid placing blame or guilt.
  2. Avoid enabling. You are not responsible for the patient’s wellness. S/he is!
  3. Make regular opportunities to get away from each other. Have outside interests, hobbies and social activities.
  4. Get regular exercise (doctor permitting). Join a health club or walk at least 40 minutes on regularly scheduled days each week. In the winter if needed, use a treadmill or stationary bicycle.
  5. Learn all you can about mood disorders but do not try to be a therapist.

In most cases I have treated over the years, I have seen the client get annoyed with friends and family when they say, “You seem crabby, did you take your medication today”? The typical response is “just because I’m angry or upset doesn’t mean I’ve skipped my medications.” The way I see it, if you have a history of noncompliance, you don’t have the right to be angry when asked! Take the medication as prescribed so your family doesn’t worry about compliance or need to be intrusive in your life. They should be relatively assured that you are compliant with medication and treatment. Regardless, it is the responsibility of the family to ask because the consequences of not taking it as prescribed can lead to injury and possibly suicide.

  • Monitor and report on medication compliance.
  • Monitor and report on the use of alcohol and drugs.
  • Avoid over involvement unless the person poses a danger to himself or others.
  • Avoid trying to help motivate compliance with treatment.

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Anxiety Panic Grief Depression, Bipolar Mood Disorders, Glossary of terms

What causes relapse to depression?

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By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC
Senior Staff Therapist,
The Family Institute at Northwestern University

Relapse Warning Signs and Symptoms of Depression.
It is extremely important to be aware of relapse warning signs and symptoms. When one is taking medication as prescribed by the doctor, symptoms are largely under control and the client is stable. The reappearance of certain symptoms is an indication that the medication may need to be adjusted, reevaluated or changed. These symptoms may also be an indication that the medication is no longer being taken as prescribed or alcohol and substance use is interfering with the effectiveness of the medication.
These symptoms include:
• Thoughts about hurting oneself or others.
• Changes in one’s sleep/wake cycle, especially little or no sleep.
• Inability to concentrate, rapid speech, skidding from subject to subject.
• Rapid mood fluctuations, negative thoughts on repeat.
• Poor judgment, risky behavior, or lack of insight into one’s own behavior
These symptoms are reflected by poor daily functioning, lack of motivation, loss of interest and conflict. These are considered to be active symptoms and usually are caused by non-compliance with medication and use of alcohol or drugs. In many instances, the medication may need to be changed or the dosage adjusted by the doctor. This may also reflect the need for family members to monitor medication compliance and alcohol/drug usage. Relapse warning signs should be reported to the doctor and therapist immediately. Don’t wait!

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Now I can work via zoom with anyone, anywhere in the country and it may still be covered by BCBS Insurance. Check with your BCBS representative.

Call James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC, Senior Staff Therapist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, 847-733-4300 Ext 638.

http://manageyourmood.net
http://family-institute.org
http://psychologytoday.com
http://takenotelessons.com  Effective on-line, one on one, SAT, ACT, GRE, standardized test preparation, via face time, zoom or skype.

Disclaimer: This material is meant to be used in conjunction with psychiatric treatment, medication, if necessary, and supportive therapy. Always share this material and your questions about this material with your doctor and therapist.

Anxiety Panic Grief Depression, Bipolar Mood Disorders, Coping skills, Couples, Glossary of terms, Relationships

James E. DelGenio offers Tele-therapy with BCBS PPO Insurance accepted

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By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC
Senior Staff Therapist
The Family Institute at Northwestern University

James DelGenio LCPC is a senior staff therapist who offers teletherapy and accepts BCBS PPO Insurance.  Teletherapy is HIPAA approved via Zoom.com 

His services include Individual and family counseling, marital and premarital counseling, and treatment of mood disorders and dependence.

Locations:  Teletherapy anywhere via zoom.  HIPAA approved and accepted by BCBS PPO Insurance.

As a practicing Psychotherapist for over 40 years, I employ a variety of clinical approaches including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) in the treatment of couples, families and individuals.

Individual Practice: Assessment and treatment of anxiety, stress, panic, trauma, anger, grief, depression, mood disorders, mental illness and alcohol/substance abuse.

Marriage and Family Practice: Lack of intimacy, infidelity, poor communication, conflict over finances, lack of trust, parenting and behavior issues, premarital and divorce issues.

Specialization: Treatment of couples, depression and its impact on relationships and the family.

Zoom!

Now I can work via Zoom with anyone, anywhere in the country and it is covered by BCBS Insurance. Check with your BCBS representative for more information.  Call James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC, Senior Staff Therapist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, 847-733-4300 Ext 638.

http://manageyourmood.net
http://family-institute.org

Disclaimer: This material is meant to be used in conjunction with psychiatric treatment, medication, if necessary, and supportive therapy. Always share this material and your questions about this material with your doctor and therapist.

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What are relapse warning signs of depression?

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By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC
Senior Staff Therapist
The Family Institute at Northwestern University

Relapse Warning Signs of reoccurring Depression

Be aware of relapse warning signs and symptoms. When one is taking medication as prescribed by the doctor, symptoms are largely under control and the client is stable. The reappearance of certain symptoms is an indication that the medication may need to be adjusted, reevaluated or changed. These symptoms may also be an indication that the medication is no longer being taken as prescribed or alcohol and substance use is interfering with the effectiveness of the medication.

These symptoms include:
• Thoughts about hurting oneself or others
• Changes in one’s sleep/wake cycle, especially little or no sleep
• Inability to concentrate, rapid speech, skidding from subject to subject
• Rapid mood fluctuations, mania, or depression
• Poor judgment, risky behavior, or lack of insight into one’s own behavior

These symptoms are reflected by poor daily functioning, lack of motivation, loss of interest and conflict. These are considered to be active symptoms and usually are caused by non-compliance with medication and use of alcohol or drugs. In many instances, the medication may need to be changed or the dosage adjusted by the doctor. This may also reflect the need for family members to monitor medication compliance and alcohol/drug usage. Relapse warning signs should be reported to the doctor and therapist immediately. Don’t wait!

Zoom!

Now I can work via Zoom with anyone, anywhere in the Illinois and it may still be covered by BCBS Insurance. Check with your BCBS representative.

Call James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC, Senior Staff Therapist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, 847-733-4300 Ext 638.

http://manageyourmood.net
http://family-institute.org

Disclaimer: This material is meant to be used in conjunction with psychiatric treatment, medication, if necessary, and supportive therapy. Always share this material and your questions about this material with your doctor and therapist.

Alcohol Dependence, Bipolar Mood Disorders, Substance Dependence

The use of alcohol can be the same as abuse when you have depression.

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By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC
Senior Staff Therapist,
The Family Institute at Northwestern University

Mood disorders and alcohol just don’t go together.

Where mood disorders are concerned use may very well be the same as abuse! Alcohol impairs functioning and it affects thinking, behavior and relationships. Alcohol and substances also affect thinking and behavior. Don’t do anything that would make you relapse to active symptoms.  It is known fact that alcohol and substance abuse make the symptoms of a mood disorder worse and vice versa.  Alcohol is a depressant; one drink at a family gathering may affect one’s mood for days. If you have depression, why would you exacerbate it by using alcohol?!  To me, continued alcohol use at this point would indicate that you are already alcohol dependent and are in need of professional help.

Alcohol also “washes out” and therefore may negate the usefulness of anti-depressant medication. Remember, it takes at least four to six weeks to get the medication to the prescribed therapeutic level in your body.  When you drink you affect that level. In addition, one should never use alcohol or substances when taking any prescription medication. This can be fatal.

It goes without saying that if you are an alcoholic, you can’t have any alcohol. If you are not an alcoholic, but you do have a mood disorder, check with your psychiatrist for approval of one or two drinks on very special occasions. In the days after, monitor yourself to see if it has affected your mood. If it does, use is the same as abuse!

  • Drugs and alcohol make mood disorders worse.
  • If the doctor approves of one or two drinks, monitor your mood in the days that follow.
  • If your mood is off, you need to consider abstinence from alcohol.

Zoom!
Now for the first time, I can work via Zoom with anyone, anywhere in the country and it may be covered by BCBS Insurance. Check with your BCBS carrier for details.  Call 847-733-4300 Ext 638 for more information.

http://jamesdelgenio.com
http://family-institute.or

Disclaimer: This material is meant to be used in conjunction with psychiatric treatment, medication, if necessary, and supportive therapy. Always share this material and your questions about this material with your doctor and therapist.

Anxiety Panic Grief Depression, Bipolar Mood Disorders, Glossary of terms

Five signs you are relapsing back into depression.

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By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC
Senior Staff Therapist,
The Family Institute at Northwestern University

1. Negative rumination. Negative thoughts that feel like they are on repeat, over and over again.

2. High anxiety.   Feeling like you want to jump out of your skin. Inability to relax.

3. Isolation and withdrawal. Prefer to be alone, avoiding people in general and friends. Failure to return calls from friends and family.

4. Sleep issues. Unable to get out of bed. Sleeping too much or too little.

3. Poor hygiene.   Not showering, brushing teeth, combing hair or wearing clean clothes.

4. Tearful. No particular reason for crying. Feeling low.

5. Poor concentration.  Inability to concentrate on the simplest of tasks.

6. Poor short term memory. This goes hand-in-hand with poor concentration.

These are known as active symptoms and usually indicate that the medication is not being taken as prescribed or that the medication needs to be adjusted or changed. Alcohol or drug use may also render the medication ineffective. Contact your doctor immediately.

Zoom!

Now I can work via zoom with anyone, anywhere in the country and it may still be covered by BCBS Insurance.  Check with your BCBS representative for more information.

Call James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC, Senior Staff Therapist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, 847-733-4300 Ext 638.

http://manageyourmood.net
http://family-institute.org
http://psychologytoday.com

Disclaimer: This material is meant to be used in conjunction with psychiatric treatment, medication, if necessary, and supportive therapy.  Always share this material and your questions about this material with your doctor and therapist.

Couples, Marital Family Issues, Premarital Issues, Relationships

The Use of Home Work in Couples Counseling

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By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC
Senior Staff Therapist
The Family Institute at Northwestern University

Homework for couples

As a cognitive behavioral therapist, I assign homework between sessions to the couples I counsel. Homework will not solve conflict, communication or resentment issues. Those issues need to be addressed in session. Home work will, however, help and typically addresses the following:

Civility and Respect
This one is a must. Civility and respect is the foundation of your relationship. When a couple loses civility and respect, their relationship is in serious trouble. They feel distant and as a result intimacy suffers. There is never a good reason to scream, swear, name call, or act out. If you have gotten into these habits you may need professional help to get it under control. It will take some time; it is a process – but if you work at it and strive for consistency you can regain civility and respect. As in any process, owning your errors is important. Don’t hesitate to acknowledge it if you say something that is not civil or respectful. Say, “I am sorry I should not have said that.” and mean it. All couples need rules of engagement for conflict. You can never allow yourself to lose control. It is the foundation of your relationship. You can’t build a house without a good foundation. Couples can’t permit yelling, screaming, swearing and name calling to undermine their relationship.

Call Time Out
When conflict becomes too intense and one or both of you are in danger of losing civility and respect, call a time out. The words time out will become a signal for both of you to settle down. Never follow your spouse when they are trying to retreat from the conflict. Standing outside the bathroom door and continuing the discussion is out of bounds. If you decide to go for a walk or to a movie, say so your spouse knows when you are coming back. It is cruel to just walk out without regard for the others feelings. The rule of time out is you must get back to the discussion within 24 hours. Far too often couples will just let the issue go unresolved, swept under the rug. This creates resentment and distance. Hopefully, after a day to reflect, you will be able to discuss the issue calmly. If not, hold the issue for the next therapy session.

Reduce Alcohol/Drug Use
Many fights occur when too much alcohol has been consumed. Alcohol reduces inhibitions making it easier to allow yourself to lose control. If you are drinking daily, you may have a problem. Denial is a huge part of alcoholism. I typically say, Can you stop drinking for a week or two month (for binge alcoholics). If you make excuses and refuse the challenge, you have an alcohol problem. There is no good reason one should be drinking on a daily basis

Date Night
A night out alone is a common suggestion among both therapists and self-help books. As I have said, couples lose their way because of all that life throws at them. Don’t forget to nurture the relationship by spending time together alone. This does not have to be a big money issue. Many people with financial stress will simply go out for coffee or ice cream. I find it a statement of the current economic times and somewhat sad that couples will go out after therapy because they can’t afford a babysitter twice in one week.

Meet and Greet
Meet and Greet is another way to address the lack of affection that many spouses feel. Touch is very important. This is not sexual touching. This is simply affection. Offer a hug and kiss when you leave and when you return. The responsibility is on both of you to find one another and do this when one of you walks in the door or leaves for work. Reaching out and holding hands when walking or just watching TV is also a way to address lack of affection.

Parent as a Team
Children learn quickly who to go to get what they want. Sometimes tension between parents is picked up on by the children and they will take sides. As I say, “the walls have ears.” Even when you don’t think they hear your arguments more than likely they do. I have had children tell me, “I listen to their arguments through the heating vent in my room.” A daughter will often side with mom. The result is when dad tells the daughter to get ready for bed, she ignores him. He gets upset and mom steps in often creating even more conflict between mom and dad. Mom needs to back dad and of course vice versa. “Do what your father says”. When mom is angry at dad anyway due to unresolved marital issues, mom unconsciously gets satisfaction from the child’s disrespect toward dad. This will continue for a while until marital issues are addressed and parents recognize how they undermine the others authority and the child sees that they are consistently parenting as a team . Parents need to support one another in family meetings to address disrespect to the other parent. This is a common issue addressed under family meetings below.

“I feel” Statements
Inability to express feeling is a major issue in many relationships. One of the hardest things for many men to do is to get in touch with feelings. I find that many men have difficulty expressing their feelings at all let alone civilly and respectfully. Yet, lack of expression of feelings is a major cause of marital discontent. Opening up is critical for a good relationship. In addition, expressing feelings out loud appropriately helps dissipate negative feelings. Women, especially it seems, need to know what their man is feeling in order to feel connected and consequently warm and fuzzy in the bedroom. Men are more R rated; they don’t like to talk. Women say about 6,000 words per day; men only 2,000. I believe that good communication is romance and that communication is needed for marital success. For most women and many men, it is that expression which makes a couple feel connected. I encourage “I feel” statements….”because.” It may at times still be a confrontational statement but much less so than when you begin statements with “you always“. First of all, never say never and always. When you have something difficult to say be nose to nose with your arms around the person. Say, “I feel” and it will more likely be perceived less defensively then things are said from across the room or behind a closed door.

No History Lessons and no skidding off current issues
Stay on the present issue. Many couples allow their conflicts to skid into the past. When this happens there is rarely a resolution to the current issue. This can create hostility and resentment. When you find yourself fighting about where you squeeze the toothpaste tube (he squeezes in the middle you squeeze on the end) obviously you are not addressing the real issues.

Zoom!

Now I can work via zoom with anyone, anywhere in the country and it may still be covered by BCBS Insurance.  Check with your BCBS representative for more information.

Call James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC, Senior Staff Therapist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, 847-733-4300 Ext 638.

http://manageyourmood.net
http://family-institute.org
http://psychologytoday.com
http://takenotelessons.com  Effective on line, one on one, SAT, ACT, GRE, test preparation, via face time or skype and much more!

Disclaimer: This material is meant to be used in conjunction with psychiatric treatment, medication, if necessary, and supportive therapy. Always share this material and your questions about this material with your doctor and therapist.

Couples, Marital Family Issues, Relationships

How to improve communication and cooperation in the family?

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By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC
Senior Staff Therapist,
The Family Institute at Northwestern University

Conduct family meetings to improve your relationship!
Once upon a time, families ate dinner together. There was no eating in front of the TV; no texting or answering the phone and no internet. This was a time when families discussed what was going on in the household i.e. news, upcoming events, behavior issues and general discussions. Dinner used to be the natural time for families to discuss their lives, upcoming events and issues of importance.

Today, I find that families rarely eat together, missing the opportunity for family discussion. Child activities including little league, football, soccer, music lessons, dance lessons, and all kinds of after school activities have come to interfere in this essential family event. Families have become ships in the night passing one another as they head out the door. The idea of after school activity is potentially a good one: keep the kids busy and you will keep them out of trouble. However, what has been lost is the sense of family and the opportunity for good communication.

When I was a child, dinner time was always between 5 and 5:30pm. I had a lot of freedom but I also knew what was expected of me. In this case, it was “be home by 5pm” for dinner.

We would hear stories, news and discuss family issues. Today parents have become dependent on dual incomes in order to maintain the lifestyle they want to give their family. Now that the world economy has become more difficult and we have high unemployment and home foreclosures are rampant, parents are working two jobs just to make ends meet. They work late or have different schedules and their relationship suffers. They too, are ships passing in the night. Many couples today report they feel disconnected, their communication has suffered and, in turn, so has the level of intimacy they share. This will ultimately lead to bickering, conflict, infidelity and possibly divorce. How sad that an important family event has disappeared without realizing the major negative impact on the family. Even when couples do realize the problem, there is little that can be done since they are trying to stay afloat financially.

One way to reclaim some of that lost family communication time are family meetings, though some of my clients prefer to call them team meetings. I encourage families to gather at least once per week to discuss four areas. Ideally, this should be done at the same day and time each week. There should also be a pre-family meeting for mom and dad to discuss these issues and get on the same page for the meeting with the kids to ensure you are parenting as a team.  This is also an opportunity for mom and dad to discuss any issues they might be having.  It is also a great time to plan a date night.

The general topics to discuss are News, Compliments, Issues and Feedback. Here are some examples:
1. News: This is a chance to keep everyone up to date of all the family events coming up. The more informed everyone is, the more opportunities to share the scheduled load and the less stress for last minute – must do projects. “We are going to grandma’s house next weekend or Joey has a science project due and he will need craft paper”

2. Compliments and Gratitude: Express gratitude all around the family. Search for things your child is doing well, no matter how small and acknowledge it with a compliment. It will increase their sense of confidence and self-esteem. Show that you are excited and proud of them. “You did a nice job getting ready for school on time. You did better this week but there is still room for improvement. Let’s keep this goal another week or two.”

3. Issues: We live in an increasingly complex world that challenges us every day with a wide range of disturbing issues. By initiating conversations with your children, you will create an open environment and be able to address the tougher topics i.e. homework, curfew issues, chaotic morning or bedtime routine, alcohol and drug abuse. Hopefully, next week you will have compliments from improvement in this weeks issues.

Tip: don’t tackle too many issues at once; no more then one or two.

4. Feedback: Listen to your children and allow them the chance to express their concerns, complaints and express their feelings. You will learn more about your child if you open your ears and close your mouth.

I have found that both parents and children love this opportunity. The only concern is that as much as everyone in the house likes this, parents themselves have a difficult time being consistent. They often report that they were consistent initially but the process hasn’t been repeated in weeks. Be consistent! Family meetings are just one way to address the potentially poor communication within the family.

Zoom!

Now I can work via zoom with anyone, anywhere in the country and it may still be covered by BCBS Insurance. Check with your BCBS representative.

Call James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC, Senior Staff Therapist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, 847-733-4300 Ext 638.

http://jamesdelgenio.com
http://family-institute.org
http://takenotelessons.com   Effective online, one on one, SAT, ACT, GRE, standardized test preparation, via face time or skype.

Disclaimer: This material is meant to be used in conjunction with psychiatric treatment, medication, if necessary, and supportive therapy. Always share this material and your questions about this material with your doctor and therapist.