Depression and high expressed emotion

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Depression and high expressed emotion. High Expressed Emotion (High EE) or lack of civility and respect are known to have a detrimental effect on marital and family relationships. The expression of negative emotions toward or even in the presence of a person with a mood disorder is a major contributor of relapse to active symptoms. …

What are the Benefits of Premarital Counseling?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC The Benefits of Premarital Counseling Premarital counseling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship. This will give you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. Premarital counseling can also help you identify weaknesses that may become larger problems during marriage. Good marriages don’t happen by accident. Many …

How to parent effectively after a divorce?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC The answer is as simple as it hard! What is in the best interest of the children? Remember, it is not about you or your ex! It’s not about who lied, was uncivil, disrespectful or unfaithful. It’s about making this difficult time in your children’s life as easy as possibly under extremely difficult circumstances. It goes without …

Mood disorders and alcohol don’t mix!

By James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC When you have a mood disorder, the use of alcohol may be the same as abuse! Where mood disorders are concerned use may very well be the same as abuse!  Alcohol impairs functioning and it affects thinking, behavior and relationships.  Substances also affect thinking and behavior.  Don’t do anything that would make you relapse …

How to nurture your relationship?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC How to keep your connection strong? It is a hectic world we live in. Everything seems to take precedence over our relationships. Health issues, kids’ activities, work issues all take precedence. The next thing you know when you look back is that you haven’t had time for just the two of you in months! All-in-all …

The Use of Home Work in Couples Counseling

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Senior Staff Therapist The Family Institute at Northwestern University Homework for couples As a cognitive behavioral therapist, I assign homework between sessions to the couples I counsel. Homework will not solve conflict, communication or resentment issues. Those issues need to be addressed in session. Home work will, however, help and typically addresses the following: …

How to improve communication in the family?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Family meetings for better communication Once upon a time, families ate dinner together. There was no eating in front of the TV; no texting or answering the phone and no internet. This was a time when families discussed what was going on in the household i.e. news, upcoming events, behavior issues and general discussions. Dinner …

How to parent effectively after a divorce?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC The answer is as simple as it hard. What is in the best interest of the children? Remember, it is not about you or your ex! It’s not about who lied, was uncivil, disrespectful or unfaithful. It’s about making this difficult time in your children’s life as easy as possibly under extremely difficult circumstances. It goes without …

What are the most common relationship issues and conflicts?

James E. Delgenio MS, LCPC What are the most Common Relationship Issues and Conflicts? For a vast majority of the individuals, families and couples there are common conflict themes. These include: mood disorders, lack of civility and respect, resentment, poor communication, lack of intimacy, infidelity, alcohol and substance abuse, financial and parenting issues. One thing is certain, there is no …