Why do Premarital Counseling?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Premarital counseling is really a good idea! Premarital counseling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship. This will give you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. Premarital counseling can also help you identify weaknesses that may become larger problems during marriage. Good marriages don’t happen by …

How to improve communication in the family?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Family meetings for better communication Once upon a time, families ate dinner together. There was no eating in front of the TV; no texting or answering the phone and no internet. This was a time when families discussed what was going on in the household i.e. news, upcoming events, behavior issues and general discussions. Dinner …

What are the most common relationship issues and conflicts?

James E. Delgenio MS, LCPC What are the most Common Relationship Issues and Conflicts? For a vast majority of the individuals, families and couples there are common conflict themes. These include: mood disorders, lack of civility and respect, resentment, poor communication, lack of intimacy, infidelity, alcohol and substance abuse, financial and parenting issues. One thing is certain, there is no …

How to nurture your relationship?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Nurture your relationship. It is a hectic world we live in. Everything seems to take precedence over our relationships. Health issues, kids’ activities, work issues all take precedence. The next thing you know when you look back is that you haven’t had time for just the two of you in months! All-in-all life just gets …

How to maintain your relationship?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor Planning is key to maintaining your relationship! It is a hectic world we live in. Everything seems to take precedence over our relationships. Health issues, kids’ activities after school, work issues all take precedence. The next thing you know when you look back is, we haven’t had time for just the …

How to address common relationship issues?

James E. DelGenio LCPC Common relationship issues For a vast majority of the individuals, families and couples there are common conflict themes. These include: mood disorders, lack of civility and respect, resentment, poor communication, lack of intimacy, infidelity, alcohol and substance abuse, financial and parenting issues to name a few. One thing is certain, there is no guarantee of “happily …

The Family Institute at Northwestern University

James E. DelGenio LCPC, Senior Staff Therapist                                                     The Family Institute at Northwestern University is a unique not-for-profit organization that is leading the way in all facets to strengthen and heal families from all walks …

Homework for couples

James E, DelGenio MS, LCPC Homework for couples. As a cognitive behavioral therapist, I assign homework between sessions to the couples I counsel. Homework will not solve conflict, communication or resentment issues. Those issues need to be addressed in session. Home work will, however, help and typically addresses the following: Civility and Respect This one is a must. Civility and …

Rules of engagement for couples

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Rules for conflict It will take time and effort to reach the goal of civility and respect once you have lost it. This, however, is the foundation of your relationship. When you lose it your relationship is in trouble. When in conflict in a relationship, you must be willing to work at it maintaining these …

How to become a good listener?

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Be a good listener and improve your relationships? Poor Communication Many marital problems are rooted in poor communication. Effective communication between partners can be learned and developed. When communication is poor and feelings go unsaid or unaddressed, the couple feels disconnected, even resentful. Over time, this leaves them feeling distant. Resentment creates further distance …