How to nurture your relationship?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Nurture your relationship. It is a hectic world we live in. Everything seems to take precedence over our relationships. Health issues, kids’ activities, work issues all take precedence. The next thing you know when you look back is that you haven’t had time for just the two of you in months! All-in-all life just gets …

What are the Benefits of Premarital Counseling?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC The Benefits of Premarital Counseling Premarital counseling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship. This will give you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. Premarital counseling can also help you identify weaknesses that may become larger problems during marriage. Good marriages don’t happen by accident. Many …

Homework for couples

James E, DelGenio MS, LCPC Homework for couples. As a cognitive behavioral therapist, I assign homework between sessions to the couples I counsel. Homework will not solve conflict, communication or resentment issues. Those issues need to be addressed in session. Home work will, however, help and typically addresses the following: Civility and Respect This one is a must. Civility and …

Rules of engagement for couples

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Rules for conflict It will take time and effort to reach the goal of civility and respect once you have lost it. This, however, is the foundation of your relationship. When you lose it your relationship is in trouble. When in conflict in a relationship, you must be willing to work at it maintaining these …

How to parent effectively after a divorce?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC The answer is as simple as it hard! What is in the best interest of the children? Remember, it is not about you or your ex! It’s not about who lied, was uncivil, disrespectful or unfaithful. It’s about making this difficult time in your children’s life as easy as possibly under extremely difficult circumstances. It goes without …

How to become a good listener?

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Be a good listener and improve your relationships? Poor Communication Many marital problems are rooted in poor communication. Effective communication between partners can be learned and developed. When communication is poor and feelings go unsaid or unaddressed, the couple feels disconnected, even resentful. Over time, this leaves them feeling distant. Resentment creates further distance …

Issues to discuss before marriage?

By James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Finances Do you know the extent of each other’s assets? How do you both view the sharing of these assets? Do you have the same attitude toward saving? Will one of you want to put into a pension what the other wants to put into a new car? Will you pool your resources or …

How to maintain your relationship?

By James E, DelGenio MS, LCPC How to maintain your relationship. All couples argue. The key is to have rules for fighting so as not to create resentment over time. Resentment is very destructive to a relationship. Always be civil and respectful. There are no winners when couples lose control. The best case scenario is that you both feel understood …

How to improve communication in the family?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Family meetings for better communication Once upon a time, families ate dinner together. There was no eating in front of the TV; no texting or answering the phone and no internet. This was a time when families discussed what was going on in the household i.e. news, upcoming events, behavior issues and general discussions. Dinner …

Premarital Counseling

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Premarital counseling is really a good idea! Premarital counseling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship. This will give you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. Premarital counseling can also help you identify weaknesses that may become larger problems during marriage. Good marriages don’t happen by …