Rules of engagement for couples

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Rules for conflict It will take time and effort to reach the goal of civility and respect once you have lost it. This, however, is the foundation of your relationship. When you lose it your relationship is in trouble. When in conflict in a relationship, you must be willing to work at it maintaining these …

How to improve your love connection?

By James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Senior Staff Therapist The Family Institute at Northwestern University Planning is key to improving your relationship!It is a hectic world we live in. Everything seems to take precedence over our relationships. Health issues, kids’ activities, work issues all take precedence. The next thing you know when you look back is that you haven’t had …

Premarital Counseling is a really good idea!

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPCSenior Staff TherapistThe Family Institute at Northwestern University Premarital Counseling is a really good idea!  Premarital counseling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship. This will give you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. Premarital counseling can also help you identify weaknesses that may become larger …

How to nurture your relationship?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC How to keep your emotional connection strong? It is a hectic world we live in. Everything seems to take precedence over our relationships. Health issues, kids’ activities, work issues all take precedence. The next thing you know when you look back is that you haven’t had time for just the two of you in months! …

What are the Benefits of Premarital Counseling?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC The Benefits of Premarital Counseling. Premarital counseling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship. This will give you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. Premarital counseling can also help you identify weaknesses that may become larger problems during marriage. Good marriages don’t happen by accident. Many …

The Use of Home Work in Couples Counseling

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Senior Staff Therapist The Family Institute at Northwestern University Homework for couples As a cognitive behavioral therapist, I assign homework between sessions to the couples I counsel. Homework will not solve conflict, communication or resentment issues. Those issues need to be addressed in session. Home work will, however, help and typically addresses the following: …

Why do Premarital Counseling?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Premarital counseling is really a good idea! Premarital counseling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship. This will give you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. Premarital counseling can also help you identify weaknesses that may become larger problems during marriage. Good marriages don’t happen by …

Finances are a frequent cause of conflict in marriages?

James E. DelGenio LCPC Arguments over finances are a common issue in many relationships. Here are some tips that will help avoid conflict over finances. Set Goals and Objectives for your finances. Share detailed financial information regularly. Make financial decisions together. Create a budget. Go over your finances together at least monthly. Who will pay the bills? What is your …

What you should know about premarital counseling?

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPCSenior Staff TherapistThe Family Institute at Northwestern University Premarital Counseling is a really good idea!  Premarital counseling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship. This will give you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. Premarital counseling can also help you identify weaknesses that may become larger …

Issues to discuss before marriage?

By James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Issues premarital couples should discuss before marriage.  Check it out! Finances You may not realize it now but this is a big one.  Do you know the extent of each other’s Assets? Debts?  How do you view the sharing of these assets? Do you have the same attitude toward saving? Will one of you …