Why do Premarital Counseling?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Premarital counseling is really a good idea! Premarital counseling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship. This will give you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. Premarital counseling can also help you identify weaknesses that may become larger problems during marriage. Good marriages don’t happen by …

How to improve communication in the family?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Family meetings for better communication Once upon a time, families ate dinner together. There was no eating in front of the TV; no texting or answering the phone and no internet. This was a time when families discussed what was going on in the household i.e. news, upcoming events, behavior issues and general discussions. Dinner …

How to parent effectively after a divorce?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC The answer is as simple as it hard. What is in the best interest of the children? Remember, it is not about you or your ex! It’s not about who lied, was uncivil, disrespectful or unfaithful. It’s about making this difficult time in your children’s life as easy as possibly under extremely difficult circumstances. It goes without …

What are the most common relationship issues and conflicts?

James E. Delgenio MS, LCPC What are the most Common Relationship Issues and Conflicts? For a vast majority of the individuals, families and couples there are common conflict themes. These include: mood disorders, lack of civility and respect, resentment, poor communication, lack of intimacy, infidelity, alcohol and substance abuse, financial and parenting issues. One thing is certain, there is no …

How to address child behavior issues?

James E. DelGenio LCPC Family meetings for child behavioral issues. Once upon a time, families ate dinner together. There was no eating in front of the TV; no texting or answering the phone and no internet. This was a time when families discussed what was going on in the household i.e. news, upcoming events, behavior issues and general discussions. Dinner …

The Family Institute at Northwestern University

James E. DelGenio LCPC, Senior Staff Therapist                                                     The Family Institute at Northwestern University is a unique not-for-profit organization that is leading the way in all facets to strengthen and heal families from all walks …

Homework for couples

James E, DelGenio MS, LCPC Homework for couples. As a cognitive behavioral therapist, I assign homework between sessions to the couples I counsel. Homework will not solve conflict, communication or resentment issues. Those issues need to be addressed in session. Home work will, however, help and typically addresses the following: Civility and Respect This one is a must. Civility and …

Rules of engagement for couples

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Rules for conflict It will take time and effort to reach the goal of civility and respect once you have lost it. This, however, is the foundation of your relationship. When you lose it your relationship is in trouble. When in conflict in a relationship, you must be willing to work at it maintaining these …

How to become a good listener?

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Be a good listener and improve your relationships? Poor Communication Many marital problems are rooted in poor communication. Effective communication between partners can be learned and developed. When communication is poor and feelings go unsaid or unaddressed, the couple feels disconnected, even resentful. Over time, this leaves them feeling distant. Resentment creates further distance …

Lack of civility and respect in a relationship

James E. DelGenio LCPC Lack of Civility and respect will destroy any relationship! All couples need rules of engagement for conflict. When a couple loses civility and respect their relationship is in serious trouble. They feel distant, disconnected and as a result, bickering occurs. Case Scenario – Tony and Julie Tony and Julie have been married almost two years. Tony …