Homework for couples

James E, DelGenio MS, LCPC Homework for couples. As a cognitive behavioral therapist, I assign homework between sessions to the couples I counsel. Homework will not solve conflict, communication or resentment issues. Those issues need to be addressed in session. Home work will, however, help and typically addresses the following: Civility and Respect This one is a must. Civility and …

Rules of engagement for couples

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Rules for conflict It will take time and effort to reach the goal of civility and respect once you have lost it. This, however, is the foundation of your relationship. When you lose it your relationship is in trouble. When in conflict in a relationship, you must be willing to work at it maintaining these …

How to parent effectively after a divorce?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC The answer is as simple as it hard! What is in the best interest of the children? Remember, it is not about you or your ex! It’s not about who lied, was uncivil, disrespectful or unfaithful. It’s about making this difficult time in your children’s life as easy as possibly under extremely difficult circumstances. It goes without …

How to become a good listener?

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Be a good listener and improve your relationships? Poor Communication Many marital problems are rooted in poor communication. Effective communication between partners can be learned and developed. When communication is poor and feelings go unsaid or unaddressed, the couple feels disconnected, even resentful. Over time, this leaves them feeling distant. Resentment creates further distance …

Lack of civility and respect in a relationship

James E. DelGenio LCPC Lack of Civility and respect will destroy any relationship! All couples need rules of engagement for conflict. When a couple loses civility and respect their relationship is in serious trouble. They feel distant, disconnected and as a result, bickering occurs. Case Scenario – Tony and Julie Tony and Julie have been married almost two years. Tony …

How to maintain your relationship?

By James E, DelGenio MS, LCPC How to maintain your relationship. All couples argue. The key is to have rules for fighting so as not to create resentment over time. Resentment is very destructive to a relationship. Always be civil and respectful. There are no winners when couples lose control. The best case scenario is that you both feel understood …

How to improve communication in the family?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Family meetings for better communication Once upon a time, families ate dinner together. There was no eating in front of the TV; no texting or answering the phone and no internet. This was a time when families discussed what was going on in the household i.e. news, upcoming events, behavior issues and general discussions. Dinner …

Nurture your relationship if you want to make it last.

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC How to nurture your relationship? It is a hectic world we live in. Everything seems to take precedence over our relationships. Health issues, kids’ activities, work issues all take precedence. The next thing you know when you look back is that you haven’t had time for just the two of you in months! All-in-all life …

How to Improve Marital and Family Communication?

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPCSenior Staff TherapistThe Family Institute at Northwestern University Improve marital and family communication Once upon a time, families ate dinner together. There was no eating in front of the TV; no texting or answering the phone and no internet. This was a time when families discussed what was going on in the household i.e. news, …

How can family help a loved one with depression?

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Senior Staff Therapist The Family Institute at Northwestern University How can family help a loved one with depression? The role of the family in treatment is simply to monitor and report. The family should observe the patient’s behavior and report anything that may be important to the stable functioning and health of the patient. …