What are the most common relationship issues and conflicts?

James E. Delgenio MS, LCPC How to deal with conflict in your relationship? For a vast majority of the individuals, families and couples there are common conflict themes. These include: mood disorders, lack of civility and respect, resentment, poor communication, lack of intimacy, infidelity, alcohol and substance abuse, financial and parenting issues. One thing is certain, there is no guarantee …

Rules of engagement for couples

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Rules for conflict It will take time and effort to reach the goal of civility and respect once you have lost it. This, however, is the foundation of your relationship. When you lose it your relationship is in trouble. When in conflict in a relationship, you must be willing to work at it maintaining these …

How to nurture your relationship?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Nurture your relationship if you want to make it last. It is a hectic world we live in. Everything seems to take precedence over our relationships. Health issues, kids’ activities, work issues all take precedence. The next thing you know when you look back is that you haven’t had time for just the two of …

How to improve communication and cooperation in the family?

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor Conduct family meetings to improve your relationship!Once upon a time, families ate dinner together. There was no eating in front of the TV; no texting or answering the phone and no internet. This was a time when families discussed what was going on in the household i.e. news, upcoming events, …

How can family help a loved one with depression?

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Senior Staff Therapist The Family Institute at Northwestern University How can family help a loved one with depression? The role of the family in treatment is simply to monitor and report. The family should observe the patient’s behavior and report anything that may be important to the stable functioning and health of the patient. …

Nurture your emotional connection by conducting family meetings?

James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Conduct family meetings for good communication and intimacy. Once upon a time, families ate dinner together. There was no eating in front of the TV; no texting or answering the phone and no internet. This was a time when families discussed what was going on in the household i.e. news, upcoming events, behavior issues and …

What you need to know about depression.

James E. DelGenio LCPC Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor Mood, Depression and Relationship Disorders, Common Questions  The following is a list of commonly asked questions and answers. I believe this will give the reader an overview of mood disorders and common marital and premarital issues associated with mood disorders. Please review them carefully; I also recommend that these questions be reviewed periodically. …

The Use of Home Work in Couples Counseling

By: James E. DelGenio MS, LCPC Senior Staff Therapist The Family Institute at Northwestern University Homework for couples As a cognitive behavioral therapist, I assign homework between sessions to the couples I counsel. Homework will not solve conflict, communication or resentment issues. Those issues need to be addressed in session. Home work will, however, help and typically addresses the following: …